Why Am I Here?

We are here to help our husbands! We are here to raise our children to be useful in the Kingdom. Are you blessing your husband by doing things the way he wants them even while he is away working, preaching, or wherever he needs to go? Do you really put your mind to doing what he asked or do you make excuses and pity yourself? instead of being obedient and getting on his side.

Proverbs 31 - A wife whom her husband can trust, a wife that is not seeking the good life here but is laying down her life for her family and to raise them for the Lord.


It is a wonderful privilege to wash the dishes and the clothes, clean the house, read books and play games with young children, talking to them of life, the Way, Jesus and His Teachings, to have them all around me day after day, to take a walk/bike ride, enjoying nature, exercise and talking of many things.


I am thankful for a husband who serves the Lord, who preaches the Gospel of the Kingdom, who works hard to provide for our family, who teaches his children as he walks in the way, and as he sits in the house, when he lies down and when he rises up. God bless him.

Clean House OR Happy Children OR Both?

As an attempt to encourage a mother, people say such things as, It's okay if your windows are dirty and there are toys and books scattered, and your laundry is behind, IF your children are happy and you are reading to them, and building relationships with them, etc. etc.

I would like to say, It is quite possible to have happy children and a good relationship with them AND a clean tidy house.

I know that they want to encourage you that your children are more important than a perfect house. I understand that.

BUT it is very possible and so rewarding to have your house clean and neat and the children happy and helping you. They can do all kinds of cleaning jobs and help with laundry and do the dishes on a regular schedule. You CAN do this. AND have school lessons AND time to read books. AND have a good hot supper for Daddy in the evening.

I would like to encourage you not to think you have to choose between children or house, but that most days you can have both things in order.

A virtuous woman "looketh well to the ways of her household".

Perhaps some husbands don't mind to live in a messy house, but mine for one is very happy to have things clean and orderly. Remember you are blessing your husband and being a help meet when you keep up with your housework.

Surrender

To be the submissive wife that God is looking for, you first need a full surrender to the Lord. You need to be completely surrendered to God's Will for your life, for today and for all the future. You need to see each circumstance as what God wants you to experience right now, and not trying to arrange everything and change other people to make things comfortable.

Don't Marry a Man to Reform Him...

Don’t marry a man to reform him;
To God and your own self be true.
Don’t link to his vices your virtue;
You’ll rue it, dear girl, if you do.

No matter how fervent his pleadings,
Be not by his promise led;
If he can’t be a man while a wooing,
He’ll never be one when he’s wed.

Don’t marry a man to reform him—
To repent it, alas, when too late.
The mission of wives least successful
Is the making of crooked limbs straight.

There’s many a maiden has tried it,
And proved it a failure at last;
Better tread your life’s pathway alone, dear,

Than wed with a lover that’s fast.

Mankind’s much the same the world over;
The exceptions you’ll find are but few.
When the rule is defect and disaster,
The chances are great against you.

Don’t trust your bright hopes for the future,
The beautiful crown of your youth,
To the keeping of him who holds lightly
His fair name and honor and truth.

To honor and love you must promise;
Don’t pledge what you can not fulfill.
If he’ll have no respect for himself, dear,
Most surely you then never will.

‘Tis told us the frown of a woman
Is strong as the blow of a man,
And the world will be better when women
Frown on error as hard as they can.

Make virtue the price of your favor;
Place wrong-doing under a ban,
And let him who’d win you and wed you
Prove himself in full measure a man.

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Help Meet

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18

A help meet for your husband...

Learning what he wants you to do and doing it. Being a helper.

If you are planning to be married, I hope you spend some time studying the verses directed to wives and women to learn what God wants you to do.

Wife, Submit.

You say you are a submissive wife.
You say he is a kind, undemanding husband.

I am suspicious of that.
Have you really got a husband who is so careful all the time not to require something uncomfortable of you? Is that really such a good husband? I am suspicious that you have him on a choke collar. He doesn't dare ask some things of you because he knows how you would respond.

What would your response be if:
He called you at your ladies Bible study because he really needed you to bring him tools or keys that he forgot? Would he even dare to call you? Would he be branded as unthoughtful, demanding, or callous toward your apparent need to study the Bible?

What is your response if:
He invites people home from church on Sunday to eat lunch at your house without consulting you about it and just lets you know in the car on the way home that 5 or 10 people are coming for lunch? Is he able to freely invite whom he wants? Would you feel he is insensitive to all the unplanned work?

What would you think if:
He actually wanted you to wear a more modest dress or head covering?

Is he able to stand against the normal and do RIGHT because you are his helpmeet and you will support and submit? Or must he follow the tide because of you?

Submission is only called upon when there are disagreements. If you are happy with his plans, or agree together there is no submission in these things. It is when YOUR OWN PLANS have been spoiled that you can practice submission. It is then that you need to DIE to your SELF and follow God's plan for you as a wife.

a wolf

So you call yourself a Christian? It's important that you let people know that you really do believe in Jesus, because they might not know it. After all, you look like all the rest of the crowd out there, how would we know that you follow Jesus unless you tell us?

Now just what is distinguishing you from the crowd? Jesus said, "Narrow is the way which leadeth unto life and few there be that find it." So you can be certain that Most of the crowd isn't on the narrow way, only a FEW. And since you look like all the rest, what do you have to say for yourself?

Jesus said, Wolves will dress as sheep, to deceive. But he never warned us against Sheep dressing as a wolf. It simply doesn't happen. So if you look like the wolves, and dress like the wolves, and act like the wolves, and talk like the wolves, WHAT ARE YOU?